Wedding Weekends

Tomorrow my nephew will be a groom, my sister will walk the aisle as the “mother of the groom” and we will be celebrating with friends and family. As my sisters and I discussed what we would wear during this wedding weekend, it reminded me of how much weddings have changed from when I was a young bride.

Way back then, most weddings were performed in churches, homes or outdoor gardens. Now brides walk down the aisle in barns, on the beach, in football stadiums and even jump out of airplanes. The dress styles have had to change with the times and now it is often confusing as to what guests or members of the wedding party should wear. I made suggestions in my post Wedding Guest Dresses, but would love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

Is it still true that if a wedding is in a church and after 5 pm, it is considered a formal wedding? If it is held in a barn, can guests assume the dress is casual? And what about second marriages? Or vow renewals? Does the formality of the invitation indicate what type affair it will be?

Diane Davis is a photographer here on the coast and she captures the beauty of beach weddings perfectly. Her company, “I Do Gulf Coast Weddings,” creates the perfect story of these events on our sandy shores. You can feel the sand under your feet, the gentle breeze blowing a few tendrils of hair, imagine the gulls squawking and waves crashing in every photo.

Number 3 Resized

In this 15-Year Vow-Renewal, the mood is relaxed and casual. I imagine the guests in sundresses and casual slacks.

I Do

From this day forward

This young couple, Kelsi and Justin, suggest dressy-casual.

For Better or Worse

The gulf waters are a fitting backdrop to the sparkling smiles on these two faces. I envision the party of Holly and Jarvis to be lively and entertaining and guests to be dressed somewhat sporty.

Something Blue

After a more formal affair with the groom in a summer suit, I love that her prince carries her “something-blue” slippers after a night at the ball.


To Have and to Hold

Here my friends, Pat and Ted Dupre marry in the Chapel at Monte Carlo a few years ago. Hers is the perfect dress for a second wedding. Sunday morning church attire is what I imagine with their guests. However, she is such a sweetheart that I can hear her saying, “just come on, I don’t care what you wear!” Open arms and open heart!

Wedding Weekend

My cousin Mallory and husband Ross after their wedding in Nashville, Tennessee. This photo suggests formal attire for everyone. Gorgeous!

She seems to be saying "look at my husband."

A very happy couple and one of the most fun weddings I’ve ever attended. It was all about the marriage – not the wedding.

Baseball Field

Dustin and Ashlyn will be married tomorrow in a church in Huntsville, AL. They could just as easily have been married on a baseball field with all of us in shorts and t-shirts. After all, they met at a baseball game and the proposal included a real “baseball diamond.”

A Baseball Diamond

May the Lord in HIS goodness strengthen your commitment and fill you both with HIS blessings.

Love you!

For more information on your beach wedding, contact:

Diane Davis Photography

Gulf Shores, AL 36542

Cell: 251-978-4754

2 thoughts on “Wedding Weekends

  1. I am totally mystified by the attire now at weddings, funerals and bar mitzvahs, so I am always happy to see some guidelines. I learned the “old school” rules from Amy Vanderbilt’s Complete Book of Etiquette, and even though I tried to stay “updated” with Miss Manners’Guide to Excrutiatingly Correct Behavior, much of what happens now is still a mind-blower to me. I must be getting old!

  2. You’re right about the time and location setting the tone. We attended a recent summer wedding after 5pm, so I wouldn’t let my husband wear seersucker, and he had a conversation with another gentleman whose wife also said the same thing, but many younger men wore their seersucker suits. I need to look this up to be sure about it. Any ideas? Also, how many times do we have to tell the lady guests, DON’T WEAR WHITE!!!!!

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