The Golden Comment

In our monthly Southern Bloggers Jubilee meeting today we talked about how disappointing it is that comments in Blogland are down in number. Bloggers across the globe are experiencing lower numbers in the comment section of their blogs. So, I’m asking you, my readers, why is that? While the number of hits may remain the same or even increase, comments have become golden and precious to bloggers. Rarity is always more valuable, but most of us want more in this instance.

Why are comments so valuable? Here are 8 reasons to consider commenting on your favorite blogs:

  • It shows kindness. For me, reading a genuine, heartfelt comment that someone has taken the time to type in that little window is like receiving a random act of kindness. It just does my heart good! I feel appreciated, valued and pleasantly surprised at the things people say.
  • You never know where a comment might lead. I made a comment on a new friend’s blog recently, describing her posts as a devotional picture book. I love her blog and told her so. A few weeks later I received the most precious gift in the mail from Marcia Pilar, Simply Me. She makes tea tags and sends them out occasionally to special readers and I made the list. I felt more honored than I can describe here.

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I immediately tied the tea tag to a pitcher that I purchased in Cambridge, England. Now I cherish them both.

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She also sent me this little bookmark. I tied my childhood “New Testaments” together and added her sweet gift. A true treasure. I will think of her daily. It amazes me that it all started with a comment.

  • There’s little-to-no obligation. Unlike other social media, when we leave a sentence, paragraph, essay or sentence fragment on a blog… we only receive notifications of other comments if we have subscribed directly to that posts’ comments. Readers can choose which posts they want to hear more from and which ones they don’t. If a post is very popular and I still want to comment without the added ding, ding, ding, of my mobile notifications, I simply do nothing. If I do want to hear what others are saying about a post, I simply check the notify box.
  • Comments are helpful. Truthful, heartfelt comments and reviews offer guidance to our neighbors and communities in choosing goods and services.
  • It’s fun. Sharing comments is like being a member of an exclusive pen pal club.


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  • It seems almost magical on some days. To see a number pop up on my little speech balloon, is like fairy dust has been sprinkled on my blog.

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  • Comments can help you recognize and remember names. In the picture below, the second lady from the left is Judy, who was new to our group today. But, I knew her name immediately because of comments she’s so graciously shared with me. Welcome to SBJ, Judy!!! We missed you, Karyn, Debbie, Hope, Beth Anne, and all of you sweet ladies who travel from out-of-town to join us occasionally. But, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for staying in touch through your comments, likes and favorites between meetings.

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From the left you have: Moi, Judy with Sharing My World, Linda with Coastal Charm, Leslie Anne with Fairhope Supply Co. and Lorraine with We are Clamco. Missing from the photo is Alan with Stump the Librarian. I wouldn’t know any of these precious people without my blog.

  • Comments build relationships. I may not meet all the people who I have the privilege of hearing from or talking to in the comment section of blog world; but I can honestly say that after 1 year and 3 months of focusing on numbers, stats, page-views and bounce rates, that only comments lead to relationships. There is no numerical value that can be accurately attached to that. This makes comments all the more golden.

Speaking of golden, we experienced a little something else in the golden-treatment department today. Christina Hill,  Director of Sales at the Fairhope Hampton Inn welcomed our group into their conference room this morning. We had plenty of room to spread out in the conference room, free wi-fi, convenient parking and a great Fall atmosphere in which to work.

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Hampton Inn Fairhope

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Hampton Inn Fairhope

When was the last time you had something like this greet you as you entered a hotel?

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This sweet lady had an answer to my every question. Thank you, Haygen!

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Gold and orange leaves, scarecrows, pumpkins and flowers create a festive atmosphere in the Dining Room.

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These folks think of everything. Meeting around the water cooler offers aqua with and without lemon.

So, Hampton Inn, of Fairhope, AL…. we thank you for hosting our group today, for being such an asset to our community and for welcoming friends to our fair city.

May all of your reviews and comments be golden.

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21 thoughts on “The Golden Comment

  1. Great post Kim! I know I don’t comment as often as I should either. Many times, I just have SO MANY blogs that I’m trying to get to that it’s hard to say something on all/some/any of them sometimes. As well, I often hear on some of the big internet authority sites that you should only leave a comment if you have something to add to the conversation. However, I think they’re thinking of the big-name blogs. Many of the smaller, less-known blogs that I visit appreciate comments no matter what you have to say. I think you’ve done a great job illustrating this in this post.
    Oh, and I hate that I missed the meeting, this discussion, and meeting Judy the other day. Thanks for sharing some of it here with me! 🙂

    1. CraftyHope, I know all too well what you mean about not getting to those comments. There are times that I barely have time to post and read other blogs, much less comment on them. I don’t want to comment if I’m just going to say something like, “great post, thanks for sharing,” because to me, it sounds generic. I want my comments to be well thought out. So, I’ve adopted it as a new mission. I am adopting all of my favorite blogs as precious friends, and intend to leave genuine thoughts as often as I can. It may not even be weekly, but it will be sincere.

      Thank you for your comment and WE MISSED you, Wednesday. I hope to see you soon.

  2. Well Said! Without the Southern Bloggers Jubilee, I would only have a few comments from co-workers, friends, and family. The group is the fourth, and most important, leg of my blogging bar stool. I’m not always at a bar, but I often write standing up. Glad to see everyone Wednesday. So proud of our group, and our blogs.

    1. Alan, as usual, I love how you say things. It’s so rewarding to hear that you feel as I do about the importance of our group. Thanks so much for your comment and dedication to SBJ.

  3. You’ve done it again, brought me to tears. 😉
    Thank you, Kim. I’m so encouraged by your kindness.
    Love the way you display the tags.
    Thank you for this post. My favorite reason to comment is kindness and encouragement. Blogging has changed DRASTICALLY from the time I published my first post five years ago. It was mostly about community back then. Once bloggers began to monetize their pages, and homemakers found a way to earn some cash while doing what they love, the feeding frenzy began…cliques, ulterior motives, networking…sigh. Everyone jumped on the Martha Stewart wagon. Now blogging is mostly about increasing stats. Not for me, but I’m in the minority, the “commentless” minority.
    I’m holding on to the few, to the kind storytellers who are still here for no other reason than to connect and encourage one another. Guess it all boils down to the same thought that has kept me in this land of blog this long…IF EVEN FOR ONE.

    1. Marcia,

      There are many opportunities in our lifetime to recognize beauty when we see it. While I may miss more opportunities than I’d want to know, it is my goal to be ever watchful for beauty in as many places and faces as possible. I’m so glad I met you out there in BlogLand. Have you read the book, “One Thousand Gifts?” I think you’d love it. The words from your heart are truly kind and encouraging, so you’ve met that goal. I am so thankful to be one of your ONES.

      1. Thank you, Kim.
        PS-I’ve flipped through One-Thousand Gifts, and found my way to Ann’s page from the very beginning of my blogging journey. So much inspiration. Thank you for reminding me.

  4. Hi Kim. I stumbled across this post tonight and I’m so glad I did. Interesting talk y’all had…I’ve been blogging kind of a long time…maybe 6 years. When I started the whole point was to connect with others who loved the same things. You know, to talk about home, recipes, raising families, etc. I think the feel of blogs has changed in often feels like a contest to me. It’s much more impersonal. I miss the days when people always left comments. It was actually considered impolite when I first started not to comment. Like sneaking around in someone’s house. 🙂

    Also, people will now say extremely rude things. It hasn’t happened to me but a close friend of mine who has a beautiful home blog has had some awful things left in her comments. Who does that? I don’t really understand it except that maybe are just getting too used to being on the backside of a computer. Does that make sense?

    The gals in your group are great about leaving sweet comments. I still appreciate that connection. 🙂

    1. Stacey,

      I so appreciate your heart on this subject. I, too want to keep my focus on connecting with others who love the same things that I do. Admittedly, I did not do that for the first several months of my blog. Now, I see that I was focused on things that only brought me disappointment or caused me to constantly be comparing myself to others – which is NEVER a good thing. I’ve recently been introduced to a company whose “product” is people. Their goal is to turn neighborhoods into communities. That is what I want my blog to be… a community of like-minded writers who want to connect, encourage and perhaps leave an electronic legacy for the next generation. If we have to communicate through the “backside of a computer,” I pray it will be in a way that encourages, builds community and spreads kindness. Perhaps, I ask too much???

  5. Fine. Here’s your comment.

    Hahaha! Okay really now, you hit the nail on the head! How nice to hear from readers, and it really does offer great feedback about what it is they like about your blog. Good to see all of you yesterday. Happy November, till we meet again in December.

  6. hi Kim, I am happy to at least experience the meeting this month through your post~ as for comments, I wish I had time to comment more everywhere and I’m sure the feeling is universal, so much to do, so little time!! The Hampton Inn Fairhope is certainly festive, nice of them to host!

  7. Thanks for the reminder. Maybe there are people out there like me who tend to take your blog for granted and do not contribute to your hard work, research, great photographs, etc., with even a comment. So often we do not realize how much something means to us until we lose it. That musn’t happen in this case.

    1. Charlotte, you are so right! There are many things in life that we can take for granted until we lose them. Unfortunately, as I’ve connected with other bloggers about this topic, like me, they are finding that many bloggers are now in it just for the money and have lost sight of the people factor. Many of us, (myself included) have gotten out of the habit of sending handwritten notes and now it seems people are not even bothering with electronic notes, either. It’s a bit scary, but makes me want to focus even more on at least an occasional email, phone call and hopefully, more face to face luncheons, coffees, etc. I’m not making it a resolution, because I rarely follow-through with those. It’s just a personal “self-improvement” goal. Love you so many bunches!!! Let’s talk again, soon.

  8. You just said what bloggers everywhere have been wanting to say regarding the lack of comments! Thank you for sharing your beautiful blog with the world and I look forward to a long and lasting friendship with you, my blogger sister!

    1. Judy,

      You are so kind to refer to my blog as “beautiful.” I can’t thank you enough for that, it is one of the best compliments yet! I too, am looking forward to a long and lasting friendship with you!

  9. Hello Kim,
    What a nice post you have put together about comments…our blog group and the nice folks at the Hampton Inn in Fairhope. Looking forward to seeing all of you again next month, or maybe even before then.


  10. What a nice post! It describes perfectly how much comments mean to bloggers. It’s through my reader’s comments that I get to know them, and in some cases, I even get to meet them in person. It’s how I met Leslie Ann and eventually all the SBJ members. It’s been such a joy meeting with you and all our members each month and sharing our different blogging experiences and challenges.

    Recently, one of the bloggers I follow posted how he has been diagnosed with cancer for a second time. I reached out to my readers and asked them to visit his blog and leave a supportive comment and they did. He wrote back to me and told me how much it meant to him. Words have power and kind and loving words can save the world. We need more of them, so leave a comment. Participate in the conversation. You can make a difference in someone’s day. 🙂

    1. Lorraine, you are THE sweetest. What a kind and generous thing to do for a struggling cancer patient. Words do have power. Hugs to you, dear friend.

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