Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Donna, a fellow member of Gulf Coast Bloggers, writes about our true emotions, so when I ran across the quote, “Don’t believe everything you think,” I asked her to write a guest post about it. She immediately said yes because “this is such an important topic,” she replied Thank you, Donna, for sharing your thoughts with us.

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Distorted Thinking

 

It only seems natural to believe what you think.

After all these are your thoughts. If you dig a bit deeper you recognize that your thinking is not always accurate and maybe you can’t believe your thoughts.

How your brain works.

Understanding the brain can help us make sense of this quote. There is so much information in the world and we need a way to make sense of it. As a natural function, our brain deletes, generalizes, and distorts information to keep us from becoming overwhelmed. Most of the time this is helpful, but occasionally it can create problems.

Our thinking can become distorted when we jump to conclusions or take things out of context.

Distortion can also be a problem when we focus too much on problems and ignore the positive side of life.

The empty nest phase.

Since Kim writes for women who are in the empty nest phase of life, I will focus on some common issues for her readers. During life transitions, you can become overly focused on unhappy emotions. When your last child leaves home, you may feel sad, worried, or lost.

Your thinking can be come distorted during this phase of life. When you feel sad, you think sad thoughts which leads to more sad feelings and so on. You can find yourself in a downward spiralIt is easy to get caught up in negative thinking. Luckily for us, we can break this downward spiral with a few easy techniques.

Don't Believe Everything You Think

Three super easy techniques 

Anyone can do these techniques. All you need is pen and paper. I recommend writing by hand.

  1. Write it down

Write down your thoughts and feelings. Here are some examples: “I’m not hearing from my daughter enough” or “I worry my son will make bad choices” or “I don’t know how to fill the void in my life”.  When you see your thoughts on paper you can engage in critical thinking. Studies have shown that by writing or journaling every day, we can clarify our thoughts, reduce our stress, and even improve our health.

Pen and Paper

 

  1. Use coping thoughts

If writing is not enough, you can write a powerful coping phrase for any resistant thoughts. Some examples might be: “I’ve been through other changes and I came out stronger” or “My daughter is a responsible young adult” or “I now have more time for my husband” or “I have time to pursue new interests”.

  1. Write a gratitude journal

 Each day list three things you are grateful for. This technique has been around for a while. It may be simple, but it works. If you want to list more than three things, even better.

Does this mean you will no longer feel sad or worried? Not at all. These are normal emotions. You are looking for balance in your life.

No, you can’t always believe your thoughts, but with a few simple techniques you can make sure your thoughts more accurately reflect your life. Times of transition can become opportunities for new experiences. The choice is up to you.

 

 

 

 

Donna Weber, M.A., LPC is an emotional change consultant. Her goal is to help you release emotional wounds, reclaim your true self, and start living the life you dream about. To find more information and self-help techniques, visit her web site: www.ReclaimYourTrueEmotions.com

 

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12 thoughts on “Don’t Believe Everything You Think

  1. I’ve just been reading your comments on my guest post. You have warmed my heart. I am so glad I could share some easy techniques that can make a big difference. And thank you Kim for asking me to write for your blog.

  2. Very thought provoking blog post. For some reason, people do gravitate to thinking about what they don’t have rather than what they do have. I sometimes challenge myself to think of things I’m grateful for that I’ve never considered before. It works! One day I felt blessed just to get a grocery cart that all the wheels rolled in the right direction!

    1. Jenny, I can’t imagine your attitude needing to be reminded of gratitude, but I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Donna is a sweet lady!

  3. Donna, thank you for sharing your insight into some of the ways to trick our brains into more positive thinking. I really enjoyed this post, and it verified some techniques that I’ve used over the years, having experienced almost everything mentioned here. Thank you Kim for sharing Donna and her gifts with your community of readers. Enjoyed hearing you talk about this yesterday at our meeting, as well, Donna!
    Judy

  4. I definitely need to put #1 into practice. I occasionally get into a funk where I don’t get things done, but I’m not always sure what precipitates it. Maybe writing down the negative thoughts will lead me to the root cause.

  5. I have kept a gratitude journal in the past Donna, and it is amazing how it can start your day off on the right foot~ thanks for sharing your wisdom, and I think I will start a journal tomorrow! Kim you are one smart cookie to have Donna as a guest blogger!

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