31 Days of Starting Over


Two of my favorite quotes about fashion are:

  1. “A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous,” and
  2. “Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.”

Both are by Coco Chanel and both describe what my ultimate goal is for my wardrobe. However, for the last several years I’ve felt more frumpy than fabulous. I’m short, overweight and suffering from a complexity syndrome. I think I make things more difficult than they really are.

I’ve read Style Yourself Over 40, 50 and Beyond, French Chic, How To Never Look Fat Again, and Looking Great, by Linda Dano. Linda Dano was one of the very first women that caught my fashion eye. I read her book in 1998 and began attempting to imitate her style.

Looking Great by Linda Dano
Looking Great by Linda Dano

I watched “What Not to Wear”, followed Jackie O while she was living to get an idea of classy style; read articles about Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Princess Diana. Yet, with all my education, I am rarely confident in my clothing choices. I’ve always wanted a makeover and dreamed of going to New York to consult with Stacy, Clinton and Carmindy.

Well, I will be having the next best thing and I am so excited. My friend, Linda (not Dano) is one of those ladies that always looks like she stepped out of a magazine. She has loved and rocked fashion in such a dynamic way, that one of her daughters is studying fashion design and dreams of having her own line someday.

Every time we get together, we talk about fashion because we both love it so much. Years ago, when our kids were little, we would shop together and I always felt like a million bucks in the outfits she helped pick out.

Well, I’m hoping to have her as a regular “fashion contributor” here on Cozinest. And as we get that going, she is going to be helping me get my own wardrobe in tip top shape. We have dedicated an afternoon to going through my closet and we plan to put several outfits together, and purchase a few things to round out my needs. Tops, pants, scarves, heels, boots and jewelry… oh my!

My friend, Linda, with her two daughters.
My friend, Linda, with her two daughters. (Photo borrowed from her Facebook page.)

Be on the lookout in the future for Fashion Fridays. We are hoping to showcase outfits for our age group that are simple, classy, fabulous and sometimes elegant, but always age appropriate.

If you have wardrobe questions, dilemmas or funny malfunctions, let us know and hopefully we can have some fun with this.

31 Days of Starting OverA friend and I were shopping for an upcoming trip recently, and we were repeatedly disappointed in the selection of pants or jeans.  I mean what is up with the skinny jeans for this fat sister?!  You can not tell me that all skinny jeans make every woman look better in them.  I do use a mirror. And jeggings?  Please!  Even Chico – which has been my “go-to” shop for years, now sports every tag with the encouraging “so slimming” logo. Well, Chico, they are not so slimming on everybody!

Even the poor internet search engines have been working over time when I type in “wide leg jeans” in the search box.  I can hear their little voices repeating, “I think I can. I think I can.”

I think I can. I think I can.
I think I can. I think I can.

But, poor things, they can’t.  Even with the words trouser jeans, trousers, or pants, things like a size 2 from Lord & Taylor pops up.  Why would a size 2 need wide leg pants?  What in heavens name are they trying to balance?

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The sales lady that we spoke with in one department store agreed with us and confessed that the pants she had on that were a wider leg, had indeed, been hanging in her closet for 11 years.  Well, I wish I’d been the same size for 11 years.

Even so, why did I get rid of my previous styles of wide leg pants/jeans?  I thought they were out of style.  But, they are classic and they look good on short, petite, apple, pear or triangle shaped bodies, so what is the fashion industry doing to us?

I do not want to look my age, but I am not trying to look 18 again either. And even if I were, I am short, overweight, short-waisted and a pear shaped body.  I need the extra volume at the bottom to balance the middle. To wear leggings or skinny jeans with large tops only accentuates the negative.  Even Stacy and Clinton would agree.  So where do you go to find the style of bottoms that flatter?

After shopping for hours and visiting every clothing store that is in my zip code and within my price range, I came home and shopped my closet.  I have one pair of wide leg jeans, so that is what I’m wearing this season. Ladies, would you join me in a jean revolution?  I refuse to buy another pair of jeans just because the industry thinks they look good on a size 2! The average size American woman is a 14 and that’s a lot of skinny jeans sitting on a shelf or heading to the outlets.  I personally do not care how cheap they are. If they are NOT flattering, I am NOT wearing them.

"Network"I think I can, I think I can.  I think I can change the fashion industry.  Join me with a comment that you are NOT going to take this anymore! Perhaps, we’ll influence the industry.