A Fashion Wrap

Headscarves are worn by women for many reasons. They’ve been worn for centuries for religious reasons, to keep warm in the winter, and for sanitary purposes in kitchens. During the 1960’s Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburn brought scarves to the public eye as a fashion wrap.

Grace Kelly


They are also worn because of modesty and it is my extreme pleasure to share a story of such modesty with you today. My newest friend and fellow blogger, Lorraine, has been wearing scarves for years, but she rarely talks about them. They are not a finishing touch or an accessory. She wears them with purpose. So, when I asked her recently to share her story and she graciously agreed, I was so very touched. It is her hope that sharing this will benefit someone who may be walking in her shoes.

“After battling thinning hair most of my life, I had one of those moments where I had to make a decision about how to deal with it in a way that would work for me. I had tried custom hairpieces, I had two expensive hair transplant surgeries, I used hair makeups and topical treatments for years, but my hair continued to thin. My life revolved around my hair and I was very self conscious about it. I noticed that when people talked to me, their eyes would go to my hairline which made me so uncomfortable. I avoided sitting under lights or standing in direct sun and I hated going out when it was windy or raining. A turning point in my life came when I got my first dog which meant taking her for walks outside daily. That’s when I decided to throw all the lotions and potions away and free myself from the burden of my hair. I made a choice to wear headscarves and never turned back. I no longer fear wind, rain, humidity or direct sunlight on my head.”


Knowing that she wears them every day, I asked, “How many do you own?” 

I actually never counted, but I have enough to go a couple of months without wearing the same one twice.

Any funny stories to tell about your scarves?

I’ve been asked if I was a gypsy or if I was Jewish, but the most memorable story I have about my headscarves is more scary than funny. I was stopped by airport security at the Philadelphia Airport. You can read that story here: http://clamco.blogspot.com/2010/08/news-commentary-do-i-look-like.html


What are they made of? 

 They are all cotton, which is breathable of course, and they wash and wear very well.

Who first introduced you to head scarves?

I started out wearing stretchy headbands originally. Then as my hair loss spread, I wore Buffs, (similar to what you see them wearing on Survivor) I also tried wearing traditional bandannas, but they were uncomfortable because of the knot in back, plus they weren’t very flattering. I found commercially made headscarves with the elastic back on eBay and eventually found the nicer handmade versions on Etsy. I buy them from a few different sellers and sometimes I send them my own fabric for custom made ones.

Are they hot, itchy or do they give you headaches? 

I don’t find them hot or itchy. I have a few that are a little tight and those give me a headache, but most are very comfortable and some have a little stretch to them.

How do you care for them? Do you have to iron them?

I either hand wash them or put them in the gentle cycle and hang them to dry. I never put them in the dryer and  I don’t iron them. If they’re a little wrinkly, I’ll give them a light spritz with a water bottle.

Have you ever designed your own?

I sometimes send an Etsy seller my own fabric for custom headscarves. Of course, I ask them first.

Coffee Scarves

I had a special one made with Hershey Kisses fabric for when I ran in a Hershey Half Marathon in 2010. I work as a lunch lady in a cafeteria so I had some holiday themed ones made as well.

Describe your fashion style.

Since I don’t really think I have a fashion style, I guess I’ll have to go with casual. I like to be as comfortable as possible. I love living in the south for that reason because flip flops and capris are my thing. I don’t like wearing accessories like big necklaces or scarves around my neck and I really hate carrying a handbag. I wear a hip clip that holds my phone and cash so I’m hands free. I like to feel light and as unencumbered as possible.


How do you select the scarves to compliment your wardrobe?

Because my headscarves are all patterned, I just wear a coordinating solid color shirt and a pair of earrings. I pretty much panic when I hear the words “formal occasion.”


This sweet lady is totally selfless in sharing this story. She is draped in modesty to cover her thinning hair. But, with such class and compassion for women like her, she has shown us all how to keep our chin up.  Untie yourself from your burdens and never look back. 

Linking today with Coastal Charm, and Wow Us Wednesdays at Savvy Southern Style.

19 thoughts on “A Fashion Wrap

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  2. Oh my goodness! I loved reading about Lorraine and her scarves. She is a lovely lady! The scarves are really cool, and I totally dig the different patterns. Someone already mentioned this, but I was also thinking “bling”, maybe sequins, etc. for a formal look. Thank you for sharing her story.

    1. Cynthia, thanks so much for reading CoziNest. I agree that a formal look would be easy for Lorraine. A little bling and she’d be ready for the ball.

  3. Oh my goodness, thank you for all the lovely comments! “Amazing” is not a word I would ever use to describe myself. Jeepers, I’m blushing. Sometimes I wonder if I can carry on with this look forever. I suppose people will think I’m some eccentric old lady, but I stopped worrying about what people think once I passed 50. 🙂

    1. Lorraine, you deserve all the lovely comments! What a truly amazing lady you are! Record number of comments on my blog and it is so obvious why!

  4. Thanks for the great interview of one of my fav Ebayer online friends. I had wondered if her pretty scarves were for religious reasons or just because they are so cute. Now I know where to get one for myself! And I am happy to have found your lovely blog.

  5. Lorraine is an amazing Lady and I’m so glad she opened up and shared her story here so that others might realize they have other options too. . .and a pretty amazing variety of them at that!

  6. Kim, what a great post about Lorraine. When I met her I thought she looked adorable. I never gave the bandana a second thought only that she looked fabulous. These pics tell that story, always a cutie with the different patterns. Thanks for sharing this amazing story.

  7. I’ve always thought Lorraine looked sporty and chic. It’s kind of a Ralph Lauren look with the all- American blue jeans and white shirt kind of thing.

    And Lorraine shouldn’t worry about formal – there’s always sequined fabrics, and if she adds a feather, it’s just like a flapper!

    Great story!

  8. Such a delightful interview about our sweet friend Lorraine. I admired her scarves from the day we met but had no idea about the story behind how she became the queen of headscarves! What a clever solution to a problem that had become worrisome to her. We should all seek the simplest solution to our problems!

  9. Kim, I feel so very honored that you featured me in your Fashion Friday post and I just love the introduction. I would just like to mention two of my favorite sellers on Etsy in case anyone is interested in buying a headwrap. They are:

    Cappuchino by Danielleloporto

    and Bebe Sniklefritz

    If you place an order, please mention that you heard about them from LittleLunchLady on Etsy.

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